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Easy Information About How to Break Up With a Girl With Hassle-free !

August 15, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Your relationship isn’t working any more and you need to breakup right? However a more frustrating factor now is that…. you don’t know how to break up?

We all know that breakups occur and they can be painful, awkward and are commonly horribly fouled up on both sides. You need help! So does everyone who is on the receiving end of this agonizing experience.

Don’t be “Just Friends”

• Dating, love, sex, changes the dynamics of your relationship. Don’t attempt and be friends even after a breakup.





• If you try that, it will just be clumsy and drag out the discomfort of the breakup. It could also translate into an idea in the mind that ‘There is still a chance’.





• do not be “Friends with Benefits” either – that is what hookers are for and also remember the ’stalker’ threat.





• Remember; be honest say “We are not supposed to be together. So let’s just be free to find the one that we were truly meant to be with.” veracity is ok but don’t be rude and hackneyed – that may leave a sourness for a lifetime.





• If there are genuine reasons for the breakup, say it! Your date may not accept them, and continue to argue, but when the feeling comes from the gut.it’s difficult to assert with.





• Don’t call or allow the other person to call you later. A clean break is what you need. It’s over when it’s over!

Where to Break up

• Location is important and there are a few reasons for this.





• If it’s very private and lonely space like your flat or your car you are risking your stuff and you, as sparks are probably going to fly.





• Good food helps in most situations! Make it to a place which is private enough for you to chat and not get overheard on a standard talking voice. Perhaps alcohol, which can be worse!





• If the place is semi-public either of you are less certain to freak and if you do and are responsible to harm the other person, people or the police can come to the rescue.

Say no thanks to Break-up Sex

• If this is a suggestion from any side, the other is to decline it respectfully. Say that you have more respect for each other at this time ( even if you do not ).





• If you agree, the false hope thing will result in more anger, and a possible stalker.

Getting Over a Breakup

You’re not alone, if are feeling down just following a break-up. Many of us experience break-ups at sometime, and also need to deal with heartbreak! Getting over a breakup may also involve a surge of grief, confusion, hate, low pride, and many times even envy. All at once!

• In the first couple of weeks you might not want to do anything apart from sit around, sulk, whine or cry. That is Ok! Give yourself a little time to be irate or hurt. But after the mourning session, you’ve got to shower, get dressed and face the world again.





• It is a fantastic occasion to “find yourself” again, after a break up. When you were in that relationship, your focus was mainly on the other person and on the relationship as such, you probably didn’t have plenty of time to do stuff by yourself. Now is a wonderful time to start focusing on personal aspects once again.





• Breaking up is a fabulous time to start new hobbies other than jumping back to old ones, Take all that sad energy and divert it into learning something new.





• some ideas : Start jogging, socializing more, read non-fiction books, go for a pottery class, try out scrap-booking, play a new sport. If you’ve never been to church, try it out too. Just try something new.





• A damaged heart can be really stressed, so take care of yourself and don’t let the remainder of your body get broken too. Exercise continually, get tons of sleep, eat sensible food, practice exercises to minimize stress and depression and remember to give your self-image a boost!

Lots of things can cause a breakup. Though the causes may be different, the sense of loss is similar – whether it is the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. A split could be a very frustrating and painful experience. If you want to understand the way to breakup and get over with minimum hurt, then you must actually deal with the pain, rather than masking it- which makes all feelings build up within and prolongs the sadness.

Summary

Sometimes a split is so deep or lasts so long that a person may need some extra support. They’re not truly working with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up within and prolongs the unhappiness So be patient with yourself, and know just how to cure without a scar.

Best Questions to Ask a Girl – Learn How to Ask a Girl Questions She Will Answer

August 15, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Going on dates with girls is one of the most exciting times of life. It’s also one of the most unnerving times too, and many guys get very nervous and apprehensive at the very thought of it. Knowing what questions to ask a girl is a very tricky subject, so here are a few tips that should make it easier for you and will help you in trying to get off on the right foot.

One thing to remember is that the girl you approach may very well be just a nervous as you, so it is important to try and put her at ease as fast as possible.

You can easily tell if a girl is hoping to meet someone simply by watching her for a few moments. One thing though, do it carefully. If she catches you staring, it could easily unnerve her. If your “covert” surveillance reveals that she is alone, (at least without male company), and that she keeps casting enquiring looks around the room, she is almost certainly hoping to be approached. Now, if you can also “accidentally” lock eyes with her, smile and get a return smile…you’re in luck.

By asking the right questions from the outset, you can discover a lot about her personality, and her likes and dislikes, and it also gives her the opportunity to respond and gain information about you at the same time.

Questions to ask a girl at first is whether she is local and where she works, what she does for a living. A nice easy opener this one, and an easy opportunity for her to talk confidently back to you. Remember to offer similar information back about yourself, and in the case that she doesn’t actually ask you too, volunteer the information anyway.

Asking about favourites is another cool thing to do. Favourite actors, films, books, singers, bands etc. The reason it is cool is that again it allows her to talk back to you confidently and if you respond with similar information, you are both building a picture up of each other, building rapport with one another and will soon know if the relationship is one which you would both like to develop. The best way to get some one into is to have commonalities with them, or at least pretend to.

If you would like to learn how to ask a girl questions and the art of seducing beautiful women, then visit my website and get your hands on my free report that has changed the dating life of thousands of men and turned them into dating kings.

By: Mark Taylor

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How To Get Her Back – Some Straightforward Tips To Fix A Broken Relationship

August 15, 2009 | Leave a Comment

When you think back, you can’t put your finger on the day everything started going incorrect. You wish that you had treated her differently so that she would not have been gone. But now, when the realization hits you that she is gone for ever, you are overwhelmed with regrets and blues. Life appears like a tragedy without her beatific smile in front of your eyes. You’re feeling like your life is going nowhere as she isn’t by your side, and you start thinking desperately how to get her back.

It might appear to you as if the battle was lost, but hey, take 5, it is not! You can still win her back by being more introspective and working out why you lost her in the 1st place. By following a time-tested formula, there are favorable possibilities of both of you getting back together.

Time For Introspection

Although there are no certain methods of winning back your girlfriend, but there are strategies which have found quite a high rate of success. There’s no harm in trying anyway.

• what’s the first thing that you should not do? Well, though you’ll be nearly convinced to ring her up, beg forgiveness and request her to come back ; that is precisely what you should not do. It’ll only drive her away. You may remember that she’s been awfully hurt by you, which she’s not going to forget in a rush. And looking at your face will only add fuel to fire.





• Time is the best healer and you should be considerate enough to give her plenty of that. Think about what went incorrect between both of you meanwhile. What are the things that she would like to change about you? Since she was upset with you and left you, then you are the one who has to switch if getting back together is your sincere desire.





• It’s time you owned up to your mistakes and decide to make amends about it. Make an inventory of all the things that your girlfriend despised about you. She must have expressed her fury at you over some behavior of yours which had disturbed her. There is no use crying, “I miss my ex-girlfriend”! You have to make an earnest effort to win her back.

Work On Your Image

Now that you have found out where you went wrong and what precisely upset her, you need to target your positive aspects.

• Make a list of what she was fond of about you. Work on the aspects that she adored about you. Since every individual is dissimilar, single out the aspect of your behavior that your girlfriend was impressed with. Just stop doing what was incorrect in her eyes and focus on the good ones.





• The next step is to send some feelers to her. Let your message be short and a thoughtful one. It would just ask about her well being. Sending blatant messages which cry aloud “Oh! I miss my ex-girlfriend. Please come back now” are taboo. You have to do everything in a refined way.





• Then you may slowly try to win her back. First off, take her out on dates, first with common chums and then just the 2 of you. Then do everything which she admired about you. Try out fun things which both of you enjoyed formerly. Try to instill love for you in her heart.





• After that it all relies on your good luck. If you are clever as well as sincere in your work, woman luck is sure to grin on you. You may win back your girlfriend in only a few days. But until that moment, you must patiently bide your time.

Summary

Now that you have made all efforts to win back your lady love, you can slowly watch her get back to your life. She’ll certainly understand that you are wholeheartedly in love with her. What occurred was a disaster which is worth forgetting. There might have been mistakes on both sides which led to the falling out. If she feels that you have realized your faults and would be OK with her back in your life, she’ll certainly give the relationship a second try. And if she does not, then what the hell! Now that you have learnt how to get her back, you might make a fresh try. And if this girlfriend claims goodbye forever, then there are a great many others waiting to climb the aisle!.

What Girls Want Guys to Know in a Relationship

August 15, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Guys amuse me, annoy me and provoke all kinds of emotions in me and sometimes i am not sure whether to love them or hate them. The overwhelming levels of joy and pain they cause are approximately equal. They make you so happy and the next moment they say something which makes you want to slap them so hard on the face. The emotional confusion is too much that girls want guys to know exactly how to treat them. Is it that they have no clue about what to do or are they natural sadists? Somebody make me understand how a guy tells a girl she is smart and even before she enjoys the comment he complains that the hair style is overstayed. It immediately overshadows the first comment.

As a girl, my experience with guys have left me wishing that they would know some things. Their is nothing annoying than a smelly guy around. Guys walk around in closed shoes most of the times and the feet sweat a lot. Girls want guys to know that they ought to observe hygiene for the sake of their girls if not for their own sake. Wash your feet after a long day and fit in some open shoes. Is that too much to ask? Girls want guys to know that nothing turns them off than bad breath. It might be a medical problem but please guys, learn how to deal with it. She wouldn’t be complaining if she noticed some effort in curbing the ill-breath. If you notice you have such a problem, try to look for remedies. Some piece of advice. Do not keep your mouth shut for long but i did not tell you to develop a mouth diarrhea. Do not talk unnecessarily. Chewing is one among many ways of ensuring that their is breath refreshment.

Guys are so careless that sometimes i can’t help but accuse them of taking advantage of the men to women ratio. I believe for a fact that girls are comparatively many but how i pray you will be doomed to lack a girl you can call your own. I am very sure you would feel a man enough to have many girls fighting for your attention. It will be your choice. Do not be careless enough to prick your nose and belch any how. What do you call this if not bad manners. Girls want guys to know that your good looks doesn’t automatically qualify you if you still do this. It is a bad habit especially in public and a number one turn off.

Girls want guys to know that it breaks their heart to openly stare at other lovelies passing by. Though this is very difficult for the brothers. They will always have a roving eye. Please try to be a gentleman and however much you feel it is irresistible, do her some justice. Girls are jealous and their perception justifies what they think. If you stare you will be labelled a player. Girls do not say it to you but they will be silently praying that miracles happen and you change.

By: FRANCIS K GITHINJI

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Do Scantily-clad Media Icons Impact Girls’ Body Image?

August 14, 2009 | Leave a Comment

It’s happening more and more. The pages of the magazines and the programs on TV are filled with impossibly thin models, moguls, and celebrities. This type of media depicts an unrealistic image of what a typical girl and woman should look like in today’s world. When girls look at these puffed, buffed, clipped, and cleaned up versions of their favorite stars, they feel like they’ll never be thin enough, cool enough, or hot enough to be…enough.

Do magazine models influence the body esteem of girls?

Researchers from the University of Minnesota published a study in the 2007 issue of the Journal of Pediatrics. They suggested that adolescent girls who read about diet and weight loss in magazine articles can be negatively influenced years later.

Magazines feature impossibly thin supermodels next to “back-to-school” diet plans and tips for getting your body into “bikini-bearing” shape. Cover headlines scream; “50 Shortcuts to a Sexier Body” (Glamour) or “6 Ways to Thin  Easy Diets That Really Work” (Allure)

Articles might say “Embrace your curves” but the retouched photos of ultra thin models tell a different story. Suffice to say, some advertisers have their hands in more than one cookie jar.

Who was in the study? Over 2500 middle school students that were surveyed, weighed and measured in 1999 and again in 2004. About 55% of the participants were girls.

The Scoop: Adolescent girls who frequently read magazine articles that featured articles about dieting were more likely five years later to engage in extreme weight-loss practices such as vomiting than girls who never read such articles. This result was not influenced by whether the girls were considered “overweight” by medical standards or if the girls believed weight to be important to them.

Middle school girls who read articles about dieting (compared to those who did not read such articles) were twice as likely to try to lose weight 5 years later by fasting or smoking cigarettes. These girls were also three times more likely to use extreme weight loss practices such as taking laxatives or vomiting to lose weight.

“Forty-one percent of adolescent females report that magazines are their most important source of information on dieting and health, and 61 percent of adolescent females read at least one fashion magazine regularly,” ‘Eric Stice, Ph.D

The problem: They may not know it’s happening; but girls are being tricked. Studies show that the average fashion model is much taller than the average womanbut weighs about 23% (one-fifth) less. According to the National Eating Disorders Association, while the average woman is 5′4″ tall and weighs 140 pounds, the average model is 5′11″ and weighs 117 pounds. On top of already being think, advertisers and publishers use retouching techniques to make models seem even thinner and taller.

Note: Other studies have found that 69% of girls feel that magazine models influence their idea of the perfect shape (Field et al). Other statistics show similar body image problems, such as

–the modeling industry standards suggest women should have waists no larger than 253 and hips no larger than 35 1/2 inches, they also recommend measurements of 34-24-34;

–women’s magazines have 10.5 times more ads and articles about weight loss then do men’s magazines;

–60%+ of college students feel worse after reading magazines;

–changes found in magazines between 1970 and 1990 include increase emphasis on fitness for attractiveness and a decrease in the model hip to waist ratio (becoming less curvy);

–1 out of every 3.8 commercials sends a message about attractiveness;

–the average person sees between 400-600 ads per day;

–7 of 10 girls say that they want to look like a character on TV

Do music video models make an impact on girls’ body image?

Researchers from the University of Sussex, leader by Dr Helga Dittmar, found that the use of ultra-thin models in music videos can lead girls to develop poor body image. The article was published in the Journal of Body Image.

Who was in the study? 87 girls ages 16-19 years were put in random groups. A third watched music videos featuring the Pussycat Dolls and Girls Aloud, known for being thin and attractive. Another third of the participants were asked to listen to the music but not watch the videos. The final group was used as a “control” group– only learning a list of neutral words. All three groups were asked questions that asked them to recall what they heard or watched. Answers measured levels of self esteem, body satisfaction and mood.

The Scoop: After just 10 minutes of exposure, the researchers found that the groups that had watched the music videos with the thin, attractive stars, exhibited the largest increase in body dissatisfaction in comparison to those who simply listed to the songs of completed the memory task with the neutral words. In addition, and perhaps the most troubling, it did not matter whether the girls had high or low self esteem to begin withthey were all equally affected.

The Problem: Girls look to these music video icons as what they should aspire to be. Seeing very thin celebrities can make the girls feel “less then” and make them wonder how they can ever look like their heroes. Girls are tending towards dieting, poor eating, and other more extreme weight loss behaviors.

Media is all around us. Even when we don’t seek it out; we see it everyday. The portrayal of very thin models, actresses, singers, and entertainers does indeed have an impact on the ways girls see themselves and their bodies.

By: Dr Robyn Silverman

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