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August 21, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Flirting is fun so don’t take it too seriously. Most of the time, you’ll just flirt with someone for a short time and then maybe never talk to them again. If you always go in to flirting expecting to date or even marry the person you’re flirting with, you’re going to be very disappointed–and you’ll probably seem a little desperate. Remember, you’re just flirting.

A woman will flirt with anybody in the world as long as other people are looking on.All women flirt, but some are restrained by shyness, and others by sense. Women flirt to keep their stock high, men to get somewhere.

Women know what flirting is, and they react differently to flirting communication than they do to social communication. If you understand flirting, you can have conversations with the opposite sex and have them feeling attracted to you. If you don’t get flirting and how it works, then you will either have to become famous or be absolutely loaded to be successful with girls.

Learn how to flirt well, then do this from the start in your interactions with women to start the correct tone. Think of flirting like that of playing a game. If you start talking to a single girl and say “Hi, you’re nice. You probably have a fella, right?” in a normal tone of voice, you’re not flirting. On the other hand, if you say “Hi, I realize that you’re probably very shy due to the fact you get no attention from men… so I thought I’d come over here and pay you some attention…” it’s obvious that you’re not being serious. This is flirting. By the way, flirting is not simply telling a girl jokes, or trying to be “cute”. One of the concepts is Cocky yet Funny which is simply an excellent way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humour. It’s so amazing to me how some men don’t want to come across as gimps. It’s obvious to me that they just don’t get it. So let me explain this in a different way… If you know how to speak the right way, women will respond to you from the beginning with sexual interest and attraction. When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky yet Funny way, a form of adult verbal play, then you reach into a woman’s mind, and cause her to go into a type of emotional state. One of the keys to effective flirting is to “get it”. In other words, you have to actually practice so you get a “feel” for how it works.

I think a lot of men give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying “No thanks.” Instead of just continuing to practice more they take it personally and decide to throw in the towel. But take my word for it… once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of adult play you not believe how well women respond to you.

Here’s one of my favourite topics to use when flirting, the topic is getting engaged and being in a relationship… Bare in mind, I may have a conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier… Her: “I work in an office, and I get paid well” Me: “Excellent. I like that in a woman. Want to get engaged? We could buy the ring now. I need a woman with money.” Her: “OK, that sounds like a plan” Me: “Mind you… do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be looked after… you know, keep an eye on the TV etc.” Her: “Oh, no… I would not support you.” Me: “Then the engagements off. It’s over between us.” Her: “You can’t break up with me! I’m not even your girlfriend.” Me: “That’s all the more reason.”

…do you get what’s going on here?

I’m taking a normal conversation topic about her job and her income and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way hence creating a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting engagement and breaking up over her not supporting me.)

If this doesn’t make sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to practice more. Try it with maybe a waitress, bar maid or fellow worker. When you ask for something and she says “I’m sorry, we don’t have that on the menu”, just say “OK, our relationship isn’t working out… I’m going to have to break up with you.” In fact, you can say this in just about any situation when a woman is saying something that you don’t like, and it’s funny. When you communicate like this, you’re flirting and you’re initiating a different kind of communication. And as soon as the woman you’re talking to “engages” you in this kind of dialogue, the Let the games begin! There are many ways to flirt, if a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same… only exaggerate it. Remember, women can tell straight away whether you’re flirting with them or not. If you are, and you’re doing it in a subtle and charming way then you’ll get amazing results.

By: Mike

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My Guide to – Win the Girl of Your Dreams

August 21, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Hi, so you want to win the ‘girl of your dreams,’ I guess that’s why you’re here! I will explain in as much detail how you could win the ‘girl of your dreams.’ I will share with you the skill of image, the skill of first impressions, the skill of talking to girls, and more. By the end of of this article you should be what can only be described as a ‘Babe Magnet.’

Before we start I should tell you these are all tried and tested methods to get the ‘girl of your dreams’ they will only work if you practice them by ‘playing the field’ I hope you have lots of fun trying these methods out, I recommend doing these with a friend can turn into a interesting night (trust me).

Your image! 

Your image is totally up to you, I really mean that. There is no point changing who you are to get the girl you like. What a girl really wants to do is get to know the real you. If the love was meant to be then she will accept you for who you are! This doesn’t mean wearing jeans to a meal with her because you have to make a effort to be smart and impress her.

First impressions count 

Many people say this and it is 100% true, so be polite. This doesn’t mean talking like the king of England, but this is really what you should do all the times. Say hello and introduce yourself, she should then introduce her self back. Just be confident and think about what your saying! Keep it short and sweet until you see her when she isn’t busy. I recommend going into a bar for a drink with a friend to practice talking to girls, you will soon pick up what they like to talk about and what they don’t.

Talking to girls 

So… picture this, the ‘Girl of your dreams’ is sat on a table all on her own. This is your time to practice talking to her, so go up to where shes sitting and ask if its OK to join her. if she says “no” don’t panic, she might just be saving the seats for her friends she meets up with there so just stay polite and say “OK maybe some other time”. If she says “yes” then you can sit down. If you’re at work don’t talk about work! Try find out some information about her, ask her if she had a nice weekend and get into the flow of talking to her. You must remember not to talk to much!

Practice makes perfect 

This is also 100% true, would you show your friends a magic trick if you dint no how to do it so why do it with the girl you really like. Go to the pub and practice talking to girls even if they are well out of your league, people go to pub and clubs to meet people and socialize so go make use of it and save embarrassment later. You may even find it fun!

Getting a date 

So… you have finally plucked up the courage to ask her on a date. Now is the time to really find out if she likes you as a friend or as something more. There is a couple of sweet lines I use nothing cheesy like these chat up lines you hear about off the internet. I simply ask if she would like to go for a coffee sometime, the answer should be YES but this doesn’t mean she wants you to be her boyfriend. This is more a drink with a friend to get to know them more.

The Date 

So your on the first date with your soon to be girlfriend (hopefully). This is the time to dress as smart casual, don’t arrive in a suit unless you are meeting after work. Turn up about 10 minutes early this will show her your good at time management and every girl likes that. Stand outside the meeting point and wait for your date to arrive and open the door for her (when she arrives). You must remember to offer to buy them their coffee so when you order ask her what shes having. Take her to a seat that’s quiet and NOT in a cold draft. Start the conversation going with asking her about her day, if she had a day off “what you get up to on your day off” you get the idea and let the conversation flow mix in a 1 or 2 jokes here and there and she will have a great time. When it’s getting late offer to walk her home, and outside her door spring the line “if you’re up for it maybe we could have a meal together some time” if the answer is yes, MAKE SURE YOU GET HER NUMBER! (this is to phone her in a couple of days)

The phone call 

So you had your first date and you have her phone number things are going well so far! Next is the phone call. You should phone her the following morning to arrange a second date, starting the conversation with “hi it is ‘YOUR NAME’ from the other night, I had a good time last night” and wait for her response. After she has spoken ask her if she is free on ‘what ever date you want to take her out’ this is the moment you will no if she likes you the same as you like her. If she says yes then you got your self a girlfriend (pretty much).

The kiss 

So the second date went well you picked a great place to eat and the wine was great. now is the time to pluck up the courage to kiss her. Walk her home and this time hold her hand, when you get to the door step of her house tell her “I had a great night to night” slightly lean in to kiss her and she should move in to kiss you!

There you have it my simple guide to ‘getting the girl of your dreams’. It is now up to you to do the rest, read some of my other articles they might help you out.

I hope you enjoyed the article.

Thanks

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Learn How to Flirt

August 20, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Everyone experiences flirting at some stage in their life, whether it is intentional or unintentional and it plays a very important part in finding that special person which could possibly lead to a thriving relationship. The key principle of flirting is to send out signals to others that you are attracted to them and would like to get closer to them.

When flirting, the most important thing to remember is that it should be fun. If you do not enjoy flirting, this will be apparent to people you are forcing yourself to flirt with and will certainly put them off you before you even get to know them. It is also vital that you have a positive attitude, which can be an attractive feature to others, as you are more likely to have success with an optimistic outlook.

When carried out correctly flirting makes you feel good and confident, and it also makes the person you are flirting with feel good as everyone likes to receive flattering attention. Flirting can bring two people closer together and also be very sexy. It is important that you recognise when you are being flirted with, otherwise you may possibly miss out on a potential date.

Often the best flirting moments happen when you are not expecting them, so there is no need to worry about planning a time to flirt. It is vital that you get the balance of flirting just right. Too much flirting can ruin a good situation and too little can give the impression that you are not interested.

Flirting Do’s and Don’ts

Getting flirting right cannot be underestimated. Take on board these “do’s” and “don’ts” of flirting to make sure you don’t make those common flirting mistakes.

Flirting – Do’s

The more these techniques are practiced, the more natural they will become to you, resulting in you appearing confident and enjoying yourself.

Make sure you have a smile on your face. This will show that you are a kind happy person enjoying yourself. A smile is often the first flirting sign a potential date would notice, so a warm smile could attract someone to you. Give compliments to the person you are flirting with. Compliments are a good way to make someone feel special and good about themselves. When flirting, make sure you have regular eye contact with the person you are flirting with. Try to make it look natural remembering not to stare otherwise you might scare them off. When having a conversation stick to topics you enjoy and are interested in. This will help to keep conversation flowing plus show that you are an interesting happy person. Try to ask questions to the person you are flirting with. This will show that you are genuinely interested in them. This is a good idea especially if you have been introduced by a friend as it can help to break the ice. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. By showing an interest in them you are showing that you are considerate and genuinely enjoy their company. Casually touch the person you are flirting with on the arm or hand to show that you are interested in them but be careful not to overdo it. Make sure you sit up straight with your chin held high. Sitting or standing tall gives you the confidence you need for perfect flirting moments. Always offer your hand to shake if introduced by a friend. This automatically informs the other person that you are genuinely pleased to meet them. Use this opportunity to see how long your hand is held for. A warm handshake may set the flirting moment off to an excellent start. When starting a discussion, try to use phrases such as “I think” or “I wonder”. By starting a sentence this way you are leaving the discussion open for the other person to share their opinion.

As you practice these techniques, you will become an expert at flirting without overdoing it. You will also learn how to relax and really enjoy yourself.

Flirting – Don’ts

Getting flirting wrong is unfortunately very easy. With the intention of attracting someone, you could actually find yourself scaring them away before you have even said a word. You want to give the impression that you are genuine and want to get to know them, not to come across as being uninterested or only after a physical relationship. If you avoid the following classic flirting disasters at all costs, you will have many successful flirting moments.

It is crucial that you avoid tasteless chat-up lines. Chat-up lines instantly put people off and are a major catastrophe for flirting. Try not to fidget. Fidgeting shows that you are nervous and uncomfortable, which are not characteristics you want to show your flirting partner. Make an effort not to look down to the ground while flirting. Make sure you look at the eyes of the person you are flirting with to show you are keen and paying attention to them. At the same time, remember not to stare at them. You want regular eye contact holding their gaze slightly longer than usual. Avoid using phrases such as “y’know” or “yeah”. These phrases may make you look uneducated and a possible turn-off for many. Don’t cross your arms across your chest while flirting. This gives the impression that you are defensive and untrusting towards others, which is not the impression you want to give out when flirting. When having a discussion, don’t use sounds such as “erm” or “huh”. These are sounds that will make you sound anxious and uncomfortable. Avoid biting or chewing your nails and picking skin while flirting. These disgusting habits are not for flirting moments. Keep this behaviour for behind closed doors. Flirting Signs

Flirting occurs in a variety of forms such as a facial expression, body language and even the way someone speaks. These are known as flirting signs. Some flirting signs are quite obvious, such as winking, smiling, gazing, the raising of eye brows and gentle touching on the arm. Other flirting signs aren’t so obvious, for example, having dilated pupils, copying of body movements, copying tone of voice and even sitting up straight. Which ever flirting signs you choose to use, be careful not to overuse them.

Top 10 Flirting Tips Avoid tasteless chat-up lines. They are an instant turn-off for most people. Have a positive attitude. You are more likely to have success with a positive outlook and remember to talk about subjects you enjoy rather than subjects you do not like. Make sure you have a smile on your face to show that you are comfortable and having a great time. Make regular eye contact with the person you are flirting with, but don’t stare. Pay compliments to the person you are with as everyone likes to be flattered. Try not to fidget as it will only make you look uncomfortable. Listen carefully to the person you are with and look interested in what they say. Do not cross your arms across your chest as this gives the impression that you are a defensive person and possibly unapproachable. Sit or stand tall and face the person you are flirting with to show that you are completely focused on them. Remember to relax and have fun. Flirting is much easier and when you are relaxed and others will pick up on your fun and optimistic outlook.

Flirting is meant to be an enjoyable experience, not a trauma. By following these simple suggestions, you will learn that flirting is all about having fun and not something to worry about. As you practice these techniques, flirting will become natural to you and you will hopefully find yourself having many successful dates.

By: Deborah Dixon

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What Flirts are & How Use Them in Dating Scene

August 19, 2009 | Leave a Comment

But, have you ever wondered what exactly flirts are? If you have you might have answered your own question as romantic gestures that create a bond between two people. This definition is true but, flirting is much deeper than this. Many people like to flirt casually without any strings attached. A recent survey done in the United States revealed that 8 out of 10 women enjoy flirting with work mates. Therefore, this is a clear indication that it is not going anywhere soon. Flirting has consequently encouraged workers to look forward to days of work because they will flirt with a person they like. This is an interesting way of motivating workers. But, the truth is, flirts are here to stay. Flirting also happens in learning institutions, social places and other gatherings.

Today, it really does not matter where you are because you will flirt with anyone you think is attractive including in buses and streets. Flirting is usually an innocent form of flattery that shows the other person you appreciate everything about them; especially their charm. Men are known to fall prey to women who flirt shamelessly. The best thing is that they like every minute of it. Men also like to initiate flirts especially to women they really like. It is pretty exciting to think flirtation behavior. There are several things that men can do to flirt. The first thing has to be the eye contact. Everything you need to say can be said through the eyes. It is vital to know what kind of look qualifies to be a flirting look. It is almost a stare that lasts for a few seconds. The man then looks away. The eye contact will also be accompanied by a smile. It might be a tiny smile at the corner of the lips. Therefore, all women folk need to look out for this.

To establish whether the other person truly likes you, observe his reaction when you are meeting with him for the first time in a new day. Another thing they will do is to use sweet words or compliments. When they use flirting comments, they definitely want to know you better. Knowing what to do when somebody flirts with you is the big question. It really all depends on what you want. If you have feelings for them, you can go along and flirt. There are many people who are able to flirt with people they are not attracted to. There are no rules when it comes to flirting and, you will definitely find the fulfillment you are looking for. Women use their body more to flirt and, they will use their eyes, hair and other parts to ensure they accomplish their mission. You need to have fun every step of the way. Married people will usually flirt a lot but, might have some restrictions. You decide what to do with your flirting.

By: Susie

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A way to Flirt Effortlessly – The basics of Flirting With Determination

August 18, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Flirting comes naturally for most people. Many varieties of flirting are simply outcomes of the way you behave when you meet someone you like and are interested in having a romantic relationship with. However, many of us are too bad at the job and need some good advice on how to flirt with flair and subtlety.

What would dating be without flirting?

Flirting signals that we’re interested in someone, it initiates most happy relationships and it’s fun too. Flirting means giving someone your total attention ; it suggests smiling, playing and touching. In the proper circumstances, it is a great tool. In the incorrect circumstances, it can cause humiliation and be absolutely disgusting.

When you get to a girl for the 1st time

When you approach a girl for the 1st moments can be can be nerve-wracking. However, approaching girls and talking to them gets easier with practice. The following simple steps will lead you when you want to talk to the girl you like for the first time.

Practice Speaking . Try talking to your mates who happen to be girls and gain some experience, you may ask them to help. Each so often you simply need a little confidence before you approach the girl you are interested in.

Nervousness is Common. Even if she loves you, she may be distant or sudden with you just because girls are just as nervous about the first time as boys. Take it slow, Go slow ( though not too much to make her go to sleep ) and do not expect a grand conversation the first time you talk.

Approach When she’s Receptive. Duck approaching a girl when she is surrounded with her buddies or is too busy. At such times the girl is not approachable, no matter how much she likes you. Come up to her when she is comfortable and hanging out casually.

Take it Easy. Even if you do not feel confident, you must seem like you do so appear assured and, approachable. Prepare yourself mentally to accept refusal or whatever negative reaction you get from the girl…tell yourself that you are going to be OK with it.

By being prepared for the worst, you take the pressure off by being willing to accept a refusal and as a plus you will be nicely stunned when the girl is receptive to your approach.

Start with Hello. It may sound entertaining, yet your nervousness may lead you forget your manners and forget your manners and forget the easy steps. So start by saying howdy, and then start the conversation.

Relaxed and Steady

Once you approach and say howdy, it could be simple to chat too quickly or get forceful. Take a big breath and relax. Start slow but get to know her by asking about her interests, hobbies, family and/or mates. Use your silence to help her feel cosy and listen when she talks. The girl is yet another human so so relax and talk to her like you would with any of your friends.

How To Ask A Girl Out

You met her, you talked to her, you got her number and, so far, everything went great. However now comes that clumsy point…. A way to Ask a Girl Out.

• Don’t wallow in doubt and insecurity. If you want a date with this girl you’ve got the right to ask her out.





• If she asserts “Yes”, have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have a concept to suggest.





• If the answer is “No” or “some other time”, do not be shocked or feel offended. Just take it in your stride. Then carry on the conversation as if nothing upset you – be polite and friendly.

Remember that girls don’t admire or respect a negative reaction. To the contrary the fact that you were able to brush off her rejection so easily may actually raise her interest.

Have a plan in case she says “some other time” but if she acts too busy potentially as she’s not interested and does not need to break your feelings. Accept it as a refusal and move on!

• Have a plan under consideration, as well as a specific time and whether you will pick her up or meet her somewhere and ensure you have the funds to pay for. Whatever time you have concluded to, be punctual.





• Never, ever cancel a date unless it’s a legitimate emergency. Word travels fast in social circles, if you lie to her, she’ll certainly learn about it. She could also tell her know squeezes and they won’t go out with you, either!

The art of flirting does not come flawlessly to everyone; though it isn’t terribly tricky not very difficult to master it .Learning how to flirt is bound to get you moving with flirting if not on the top! Remember that flirting is a technique of connecting from the heart and recognizing somebody. Be generous! Have Fun!

Recap

Flirting is a universal activity that may help break the ice and lead to new friendships and romantic relations. It can also just be a neat way to meet new folk or add a little excitement to your day. You simply need a few pointers to be a successful flirt.

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